So I am from Brisbane originally and have been in Sydney for a few years now and honestly I am over it. I really tried to give it a chance but this city just feels cold. Everyone is either showing off or pretending to be too busy to care. It is like people here have this collective superiority thing going on.
The social scene is brutal. People already have their little cliques from school and they stick to them like glue. I remember going to a few parties early on and trying to chat to people and they would smile politely and then turn straight back to their friends like I was invisible.
You can literally feel the moment they decide you are not worth the effort. I tried joining a social sports group once and it was the same vibe. They all hung out after the games but never invited anyone new. Just the same group every week acting like they were on an episode of their own reality show.
Everything here is about status. The first thing people ask is always where you live what school you went to what you do for work. It is never like hey what are you into or what do you do for fun. I once told someone I lived in Marrickville and they literally said oh that is cute like it was some charity case. It is insane. People genuinely act like your postcode defines your worth.
And do not even get me started on the gay dating scene here. It is toxic as hell. Everyone is obsessed with looks and money and followers. You match with someone and before you even get to hello they are asking what you do where you live what gym you go to and whether you know so and so.
Half the guys have “no fats no femmes no Asians” still in their bios like it is 2005. You see the same people at the same bars and clubs every weekend all pretending to be famous. It is so fake. Back in Brisbane people would actually talk to you and laugh and not care about what you did for work or how you looked in a singlet.
I have tried to make friends here. I joined meetups went to dinners made small talk at work. Nothing sticks. Everyone is polite but distant. It is like they are always scanning the room for someone more important to talk to.
The only people I actually talk to regularly are my family and my Brisbane mates who have also moved here and literally every one of them says the same thing. Sydney just has this energy that wears you down.
Sure it is a beautiful city. The beaches are stunning and the food is great but underneath all that it just feels empty. Like everyone is performing. No one really connects with anyone.
It is all about what you can offer them or how good you look doing it. I miss Brisbane where people are actually genuine and friendly and do not treat socialising like a job interview.
Anyone else get this or am I just too used to the Queensland vibe?
Sydney is a vacuous rabble of people who think their shit does not stink. It is a boring place without a heart it is the shithole of the nation.
No Longer Australia’s biggest city and yes it is a aeful place, devoid of class and humility.
Sydney is all glitz and no substance.